You realize you are a lucky bride to have your parents paying for most of the wedding with the remainder being covered by your fiancé’s parents. Although you are extremely grateful for their generosity you are sick and tired of listening to your mother-in-law’s opinion on everything or perhaps your father telling you what items the money should be spent on. Overly opinionated family members who are financially involved in a wedding is a common, yet very delicate situation. You really can’t stand listening to any more opinions, but you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings and you still need them to help out financially with the wedding. You might be worried that you are being overly sensitive and being disrespectful. At what point is enough, enough?!
It is enough when you are starting to feel overpowered and out of control, like the decisions being made are not what you would actually like for your wedding day. It is also enough if you are feeling guilty for making the decision that you really want. All members of the family should be there to support you and your decisions (as a couple). The wedding day is a day to celebrate who the two of you are and your relationship, nothing else. If you have reached this point it is time for you to speak up. It might not be easy, but you should probably host a family meeting. This meeting should have both families present so both you and your fiancé can clearly explain what you would like for the wedding. It is important that before hosting the family meeting both you and your fiancé discuss your feelings with each other privately so you are a united front at the family meeting. If you are a bit nervous, having a written list of the topics you would like to cover at the meeting is helpful to ensure you don’t miss anything. Make sure to emphasize that you appreciate all family members’opinions; however you need everyone to respect your final decision.
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