Invite an EX?!...That Is the Question!

The opinions seem to be quite strong around the idea of inviting an ex to your wedding.  It is a very delicate and usually quite complicated situation.  In difficult situations I like to create a pros and cons list. I have made a sample one below. Pro and con lists are great because they really show you what you stand to gain from your decision and what you stand to lose. If you stand to lose more, then you really should not risk it. However, even before considering the pros and cons I believe the most important question to ask yourself is why do you really want them there. Is it possible you still have feelings for them? Are they one of your closest friends? Would it be awkward if you didn’t invite them?  

Conflict resolution exercise: If this is a topic that is causing conflict between you and your fiancé you should both make your own pros and cons list and then sit down and calmly discuss the lists together.

Pros:

1.       They are great friends with both you and your spouse

2.       If they are close family friends you will make your family happy

3.       You have a tight knit group of friends or live in a small town and if you don’t invite them it will be awkward. Inviting them avoids awkwardness and is just easier

Cons:

1.       Feelings might resurface all of a sudden during the ceremony

2.       They might get depressed, drink too much and make a scene

3.       Your spouse will be angry all night that they are there

4.       It might add stress to what can be already a stressful day and is one of the most important days of your lives

The pros and cons list above is to help you consider the different effects having them at the wedding can have. Every situation is complicated and you want to make the decision that will make you and your fiancé the most happy on your wedding day!