Etiquette Advice for Second Weddings

If you are getting remarried you are probably wondering what the proper etiquette is? Should you have bridesmaids or no? What kind of dress should you wear? What size should the wedding be? You might find yourself always wondering whether what you are doing is proper or improper.

Now that second or third marriages are becoming more common there is almost a stereotype around what the first wedding and second wedding should look like. For your first wedding you should have the Cinderella dress with a big reception and for the second wedding you should have a small intimate setting with a more subtle dress.  There are people who believe it is tacky to have two big weddings.

I personally do not agree with any of these stereotypes. Maybe you got married young and had a big wedding because you knew your dad was paying for it. It might also be that your first wedding was a more subtle small occasion because you were young and did not have the biggest budget and now for your second wedding you want a grand affair! If you are now a bit wiser and want to have another extravagant wedding, I say go for it! I do not think a Bride should feel like she has to conform what she wants on her Wedding day to fit some rules. If you think you found the love of your life and want to have a big party to celebrate then you should!

One area of etiquette that should not be ignored is around gifts. An encore marriage should not expect gifts for a second time; however, a supportive and enthusiastic family will usually give gifts anyways. It is acceptable to have a second bridal shower if someone offers to host it, however, a second time bride should not expect a bridal shower.

At the end of the day there really are no set rules. If you decide to go with a big celebration with a big dress for a second or third wedding it is probably more likely that people will gossip about it, but unfortunately that is just what people do. Ignore the possibility of gossip and plan your dream day!

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The Art of Being A Confident Bride

For some reason every woman has an image of exactly what they are supposed to look like on their wedding day. The second a lady gets engaged they put this overwhelming pressure on themselves to have the perfect hair, makeup, skin, weight… the list goes on. What most brides seem to forget is the way they are supposed to FEEL on their wedding day. A bride should feel confident, happy and excited. As the wedding day gets closer Brides tend to start to notice more and more of their flaws when they really should be remembering and focusing on all their amazing qualities. Below are a few ideas to help Brides remember how fabulous they are:

1.       Remember that your fiancé loves you just the way you are and probably doesn’t even notice these “imperfections” that you want to change and are subconscious about.

2.       If you are the sentimental person who keeps cards take them out of storage. Re-read some of the loving words from your friends, family and fiancé from the past years. Realize how special you are and how much you are loved just the way you are.

3.       If there is one particular area of your body that is bugging you make a realistic plan to try and improve it (ex. Losing belly or arm fat, fixing bad skin). Everyone has parts of themselves that they are not thrilled about, which is fine. It is just important not to let those few areas define how you feel about yourself. Instead take the situation into your own hands and make a realistic plan to try and improve the areas you are less fond of.

4.       Read your resume: This might sound funny, but sometimes one needs to be reminded of all the things one has accomplished. Reading your resume will help you remember all the skills you have developed and all your best characteristics.

The most gorgeous bride is the bride that is comfortable in her own skin, knows who she is, is confident and is madly in love with her fiance!